I think this is very true, but it sounds a bit harsh.
I have a person in my life somewhat (I say somewhat because we do not live in the same area) who demands that those around him help him daily. To be fair, he's got a bad situation...small children and a sick partner. However, he's fortunate in that he can well afford to pay for full time assistance. But, mothers and mothers in law help free of charge. And the mothers do everything - cooking, laundry, child care, car pools, etc. While I do have a lot of sympathy for the situation, it is painful to watch people (one of whom is my mom) being used like appliances.
If it ended there I think it would not bother me as much, but there is also much verbal abuse given out...yelling, name calling, melting down like a 5 year old when things do not go his way, and telling lies meant to upset others and create drama. I hear about it because my dear mother gets frustrated and needs to vent. I wish I did not know that he's still treating her the same way he did when he was a child. It makes me dislike him, and I feel guilty for disliking someone I used to enjoy, someone who is family, someone I thought grew up, someone who is living in a very difficult situation.
The truth is, he's a narcissistic drama queen. And unfortunately he is my mother's golden child.
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